Subtle Reviews

Hey you guys, hope you are doing well and survived the first week of January 2021. I had a great time reorganizing my home, rekindling bonds, taking a breather as I step into a New Year and revisit the year gone by.

I am happy with some of my habits that I could inculcate in the last year and I hope I will keep up. So here’s presenting my first Book Review of 2021. These are the two books  – The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck and Everything is Fucked that I really enjoyed reading amongst others so wanted to share my review with you all. 

I have often heard that People and Books are both meant to change you in way or the other. The depth or the critical approach to Human Life is surely an eye opener for someone like me. My only regret is that I did not come across these books earlier on Life. 

While I am a big fan of Self help books, however these came as a pleasant surprise because it tells us to forget the constant need and validation to be better human beings. Cheeky, Witty and over the top this book certainly wasn’t easy to put down. 

Though the books may feel trashy because of their controversial titles, however the takeaways are huge since it focuses on frank views and opinions and also Daily Life. 

The books teach us to normalize failures and accept life with all its perspectives.  It is okay to not win it all and enjoy the smaller joys. Comparison is never a good thing, neither is a constant need to over achieve and this book reinforces all that and more. We human beings are never content and there is an insatiable need to outdo ourselves all the time. The book explicitly tell  us to Stop being in this rut. If we look at it from an idealistic purpose, anyone and everyone has something to be happy and grateful about and it may or may not get better. So Live the Moment and Graciously.  

While it might sound blatant however the book definitely has an underlying meaning which if understood and imbibed correctly, helps realize the bigger picture. What is your purpose in life? How do you want to people to see you even when you are gone? Are you really Living or it is because you are supposed to? These questions really shook me and made me dwell on and figure out my answers. 

I also found it fascinating how the author touches on an emotional disconnect in each one of us and how we are struggling to make peace with it. Ironically, he says that this very disconnect does shape up our personalities and thought processes. So we actually end up being those people who we want to avoid or run away from. 

My Takeaways:-

  • We ought to stand up and face the music. Take it all in our stride – Good, Bad and the Ugly
  • Self Validation is the only thing that Matters
  • Live your Life to the Fullest
  • Inconspicous Benefits over the Conspicous Ones
  • We are all Exceptional and equally Ordinary
  • Emotional Maturity over Societal 
  • Entitlement is Unnecessary 

Do let me know your views if you have read these books and if they were similar to mine?

Until next time Stay Fab and Keep Scribbling.

This blog post is part of the blog challenge ‘Blogaberry Dazzle’ hosted by Cindy D’Silva and Noor Anand Chawla, and happily SPONSORED BY RRE Studios and SHOWCASE Events.

22 Comments Add yours

  1. Harjeet Kaur says:

    The titles sure are controversial. Your review is bang on though. I have found self-validation only in this past year. I have always looked at others for it and always was disappointed. But now I realise my self-worth. All the points you have listed out are absolutely necessary for a wholesome personality. I am making my way towards it. We are all exceptional and equally ordinary sums up all mankind for me.

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  2. Dr. Surbhi Prapanna says:

    Like you I also like to read self help books . these kind of books add value to our practical life and improve your life quality as well. i had not read any of these books. after reading your review feeling curious and would love to read it too

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  3. Alpana Deo says:

    wow..loved the titles. They are so catchy and to the point. Self-Help books gives us the occasional dose of motivation that we all. I strongly believe that we need to trust ourselves and then everything seems good and things start to fall in place.


  4. Abhijit Ray says:

    I agree with most of what you say. It is important if we can grow an attitude of nor caring what others are saying. But not all of us can do it. We continuously seek validation from our family, friends, spouse etc. Also, it is easy to say winning and losing do not count. In real life we see winners takes everything – material goods, appreciation, accolades, beautiful life partner you name it. How many of us in the face of such enourmous odd can grin and say it does not matter? It does matter unless you want to lose your self esteem or unless you are living the life of a monk. In Hinduism, I am not trying to advocated religion, it is said that it is important to be an actor in outer life, and once you venture inside leave your acting and seek for the real. Life goes on in all its complexities. We cannot give up living in the society. We must learn the art.

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  5. Mark Manson is amazing with his words, I have read “The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck” and he has tried to address each and every aspect we give effs about and why we should actually give a F about them. Simple yet effective reminders. I am yet to catch up with “Everything is f**ked”, thanks for reminding me:

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  6. shail says:

    I have not read books on self help but would definitely give it a try. Your article has made some good points on self help and I specially believe in the first takeaway “We ought to stand up and face the music. Take it all in our stride – Good, Bad and the Ugly”. I believe whatever comes our way we have to face it whether we like it or not all the ups and downs are a part of life and accepting it in a stride is very important for self help.

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  7. Monidipa Dutta says:

    I read those 2 books last year and they are superb, I loved them… Your review is bang on as well…


  8. Sivaranjini Anandan says:

    Well written your review itself had a personal touch and all the takeaways made me think I should read both the books sometimes soon.

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    1. Thank you so much! 🙂

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  9. Prerna Wahi says:

    Very well written review. Self help books are effective and give one a fresh perspective for looking at their own life.


    1. Thank you Prerna, Its inspiring coming from you. 🙂

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  10. timble123 says:

    Haven’t read any of these books. Will surely read them.


  11. Vasumathi says:

    Though an avid reader, I am not a fan of self-help books. But going by your review, I think these books make for an interesting read. I always say that I am answerable to only the person I face in the mirror and will not do anything that will make me ashamed to meet my own eyes. So seems like these books resonate with my philosophy. Maybe this will be my stepping stone into a new genre of reading!

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    1. Go for it. They wont disappoint. 🙂


    2. Bhawna Shah says:

      Titles are really interesting and you have penned down the review interestingly.
      When you read such kind of books then your morale automatically boosts.

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  12. Ritu says:

    I haven’t picked these two books because of all the hype and mixed reviews. But your review makes me want to go pick it up. It has been a while since I read a self help book.


    1. Yes completely agree, it took me a while as well to get to them, but worth it. 🙂


  13. Sonia Madaan says:

    Loved the review. I too love self help books and these are already in my list of books to read. Such books inspire me, teach me to look towards life with a new perspective and how to live stress-free in life. But now when I have read what the book actually says, I will read it soon.

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    1. yay, am so glad. 🙂


  14. Titles are sure controversial. I am not a big fan of self help books. But your review is tempting. I may try out one or both these books soon

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  15. I like to read self help books but haven’t read these two. Title sounds really interesting so would love to red them for sure.

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  16. shadawss shadawss says:

    I have read subtle art of not giving fuck. It’s a sensible read of fucked up human beings


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